Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
As I drove down a highway today with a screaming child in the backseat, the thought reverberating through my head was: “WHY ME?” I threw items toward the backseat into his lap in a panic. My phone. My iPod. Blocks. A book. A purse. Cheerios. A bottle of water. Nothing could stop the screaming.
Finally I gave in and pulled over onto the shoulder. Trudging around the car to the frantic toddler, I felt flashed of rage and frustration overwhelming me. Adjust the seat belt. Tuck the blanket back in. Find the missing soother.
Everyone says it and it’s true: as a parent you are stretched and stretched, sometimes beyond what you believe you can bear. In becoming a parent myself, I have faced moments of extreme “stretching”, where I wonder how much more I can take. In these times, we are faced with one of the most difficult virtues:
Each of us have our versions of sayings that relate exactly to this. Perhaps the most popular I have heard is “good things come to those who wait”. We can all agree that patience is not easy to master, especially more difficult for some than others.
With that in mind, I want to urge myself and you to take a moment and reflect on an area of your life where you need to be more patient. Perhaps you have a hope or a dream that you are waiting impatiently for; perhaps you have a need that you desperately are anticipating an answer to.
We all are. We all have reached that point where we simply do not know how much longer we can wait. We have all been tested and tried.
This Lenten season, let us consider how we treat others and how we could demonstrate more patience and kindness towards them. I am learning with you. I am learning to be slower to speak, more patient even as my instinct is to roar with frustration and anger.
The answer you are waiting for is coming.
Be still and wait.
“Quite honestly, most people are quick to “write someone off.” But our God is a God of the second chance. Learn from One who is patient with you, and you’ll learn to be patient with others.”
DAILY PRAYER: Lord, grant me patience to wait for answers, patience to respond with love and kindness, patience to give time and love to those in my life who need it. Thank you for all the patience you have shown me. Amen.